Asking for help can be a challenging process. We know that we need help but the words don’t always come easily. By the time we’ve gathered the courage to ask for help, the situation is most likely to have reached a critical point. This video takes you through the process of how to communicate that you need help, that life has become unmanageable and you cannot go on alone.
The link between PTSD and anxiety We are born with the ability to learn and to adapt to our environments. From birth our parents or primary caretakers are our natural sources of security and nurturing. As such, we instinctively form intimate bonds with them. During the childhood growth process we take cues from outsiders, but…
Kris Gage pushes back on the social norm of romantic, possessive love, and exposes it for a co-dependent myth. The romance version is that your soulmate will somehow become responsible for your negative emotions and make you happy. The codependent myth is very popular, because it promises so much — i.e., that our partners will love us…
Cognitive distortions are ways that our mind convinces us of something that isn’t really true. These untrue thoughts are usually used to reinforce negative thinking or feelings — telling ourselves things that sound rational and accurate, but really only serve to keep us feeling bad about ourselves. Examples of cognitive biases that cause distorted thoughts and…
Abuse does not always have to be physical; sometimes the deepest scars we wear are emotional ones. Psychological abuse can be subtle and underhanded but its effects, devastating. Also referred to as emotional or mental abuse, psychological abuse feels like you are continuously walking around on eggshells or, at worst going crazy (a event frequently…
Cape Town is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful cities in the world and the summer holidays in December see an influx of tourists from every corner of the world. With amazing weather, clear blue skies and a number of picturesque beaches the holiday mood in the city is tangible and totally irresistible. For most…
Many signs of codependency seem like normal behaviour. Caring for a needy person does not make you a codependent. However, when the act of caring is excessive, unnecessary and actively hidden behind a facade of normality, it becomes codependency. Compassion is normal, but not when it is so overwhelming that it causes you to pursue…